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Wednesday, April 6, 2011

Baby Naming Issue: How to Decide Between Two Finalists?

Wednesday, April 6, 2011
Betsy writes:
Hi there
We are having a baby in three days. We are Stuck between jack Henry and Nate Henry . How do we decide?
Help!!!

Thanks

Imagine that you have chosen to use the name Nate. How do you feel? Try it again, imagining you've decided on the name Jack. Did either pretend decision give you a larger swoop of disappointment/happiness?

Flip a coin: heads is one name, tails is the other. Measure your reaction to the outcome: were you kind of hoping it would be one or the other?

Each parent say to the other, "Okay, the name is going to be _____." Measure reaction. Were either of you hoping the reaction would be different?

Make a list for each name, advantages and disadvantages. Maybe one would remind you pleasantly of a particular person but would also be a hassle for some other reason. Write down everything you can think of about both names. This isn't a "longer list wins/loses" sort of exercise---more like a "Which items seem more important?"

Are you planning more children? Jack and Nate would make a good set of brother names, if you have a boy later on. If you knew you would have a second boy later, which name would you prefer to use FIRST?

Both of those names can be nicknames for other names (Nate for Nathaniel or Nathan; Jack for John or Jackson)---do you have a preference for any of those that might sway you more toward the nickname associated with it?

Go to the delivery with both names. Choose after you've had some time with the baby.

We'll have a poll, over to the right. [Poll closed; see results below.] Measure your reaction to the results: are you hoping one will pull ahead? disappointed if the other one does? If there are comments in the comments section, which comments do you feel like arguing with? Which name are you hoping the comments will support?