My husband and I are expecting our 3rd baby, we have two beautiful baby girls named McKenna and Mia and then surprise we found out we are having a baby boy! His due date is August 4th, but the doctor says probably end of July. We are having such a hard time choosing a name for a boy. Do we stick with an M name like our girls names or do we branch out and give him a non M name? There really aren't too many great M names for boys. If we would have had another girl, it we would have gone with Molly or Macey. My husband likes Milo for a boy, for some reason that name just doesn't settle with me. I am also so worried that if we go with another M name and we have another baby we'll be really trapped with M names! We have decided on James for a middle name. James is a family name and seems to work well with most first names. To go even further our last name starts with the letter M! So my girls initials are MGM and MFM! I like the name Owen, but that names doesn't settle with my husband. He also doesn't like Micah or Mason. I kind of liked Madden but that was a NO too! I like the name Zane but Zane James doesn't work. Both of us like the names Weston and Keaton but nothing really seems to be sticking! My husbands name is Aaron and so is his dads and my brothers, so we were trying to steer clear of Aaron but I kind of like Aaron James, even AJ for a nickname. Any suggestions for this M or not to M name dilema?
Thanks
It seems to me that it's the third child that makes parents feel permanently locked into an initial. If you have McKenna, Mia, Weston, and Keaton, no one will think, "Why didn't they keep going with M names?" But if you have McKenna, Mia, Milo, and Keaton, it's different. Something about the third child is what makes the pattern solid. Not that it can't be broken, of course; I'm only talking about how it seems to FEEL to people.
So this is your moment to decide: Do you want to stick to M names, or don't you? Does it appeal to you? I can see upsides to both ways. On one hand, I wouldn't want to narrow the field that severely: so many great names you wouldn't be able to use! On the other hand, most people have certain letters they tend to be drawn to, and so if M is one of yours, you're likely to find quite a few names you like there; and I've noticed from writing this column that it can be fun and interesting to work with a tight restriction---as well has HELPING to narrow things down, considering how overwhelmingly large the field really is.
One possibility is to see if there's another initial you tend to be drawn to for boy names, as you're drawn to M names for girls, and then use that initial for this and all future boys.
Another possibility is to first find the name you like best, without thinking about the initial, and then just see how it works out: if you do find an M name you like best, use it; but if you don't, play it from there, either going with that new initial for all future boys, or else discontinuing all initial-matching.
If you do decide on M names, one problem is that a lot of the ones I think would work well with your style start with Mc or Mac, and you've already got one of those. I don't know if that would work or not. McKenna, Mia, and Macaulay? McKenna, Mia, and Macgregor? I guess it...well, I'm just not sure.
Maguire might work. It has a sound similar to McKenna but without actually repeating the Mc/Mac. McKenna, Mia, and Maguire.
Or Malcolm: McKenna, Mia, and Malcolm.
Or for something more unusual, how about Malone? McKenna, Mia, and Malone.
These may seem so ordinary your mind will flit right over them, but give some thought to Mark and Michael and Matthew. They're common because they're good solid names with staying power. Marcus/Markus makes Mark a little more exotic; Matteo and Matthias do the same for Matthew; Micah kind of does the same for Michael.
In fact, I want to give Matteo its own paragraph. It has the fashionable -o ending but the casual nickname Matt, and it's good with the sibling group: McKenna, Mia, and Matteo.
Marshall would work: McKenna, Mia, and Marshall. It adds in a completely different sound, which is a bonus when repeating the initial.
Or Mitchell? I think I like that even better: McKenna, Mia, and Mitchell.
I'll mention Maverick, but that name seems like a lot to live up to---like telling the child we want him to have a particular personality, which could be a bit hard on him if he's the careful cautious type. Still, we do similar things with names such as Faith and Charity and Patience, and to a lesser extent with high-association names such as Scarlett; it's probably more that the name Maverick is relatively new, and so still seems more tied to its meaning.
Speaking of which, maybe Merit or Merritt? McKenna, Mia, and Merrit.
Do you like any of the Max names? Regular plain Max is my favorite of them: the others sound to me like "longer versions because we want the nickname Max." And in your family I think that's the best fit anyway: McKenna, Mia, and Max. It doesn't go well with James; do you have other male family members you'd like to honor? Or you could use Maxwell, which DOES go well with James.
One of my favorite M boy names is Miller: McKenna, Mia, and Miller.
Another of that type is Mercer: McKenna, Mia, and Mercer.
You wouldn't want to consider Morris, would you? I think of it as a warm and solid name ready to join other comebacks such as Warren and Walter and Conrad and Cedric. McKenna, Mia, and Morris.
Morrisey spruces it up a bit: McKenna, Mia, and Morrissey.
Or Morrison: McKenna, Mia, and Morrison.
Murphy has charm: McKenna, Mia, and Murphy. Murray too: McKenna, Mia, and Murray.
